Tulisan ini tercipta setelah gue dengerin lagunya FLOWER FLOWER di mini album Takaramono. Kenapa? Karena gue ngerasa YUI terlihat dewasa banget di band barunya ini, gak asal genjrang-genjreng seperti pas masih solo dulu. Jujur, lagunya bagus sih cuma bikin ngantuk dan ngebosenin. FLOWER FLOWER lebih banyak main ambience, feelnya mirip seperti saat gue dengerin lagu-lagunya NOAH. Ngerti kan? Simplenya, YUI disini ngambil jalan yang sama seperti peterpan. Mungkin neng YUI terlalu cepat mendapatkan semuanya, bahkan saat usianya masih sangat muda. Mungkin agak aneh buat fans saat YUI ngambil keputusan buat hiatus, tapi gue langsung tahu bahwa itu adalah pernyataan pensiun secara halus. Mungkin karena itu sudah dua kali kejadian.
Sama seperti neng YUI yang sudah memilih jalannya, gue juga mulai khawatir sama yang namanya masa depan. Banyak teman gue yang sudah mulai nikah karena gak pengen anaknya nanti dewasa pas mereka sudah ketuaan. Dan gue yang bulan depan sudah 25 tahun masih gak kepikiran buat nikah, mungkin karena masa sekolah gue yang lurus kebangetan. Tapi saat ini gue sudah kerja kantoran, ngadepin teror deadline tiap minggu. Satu-satunya hal menyenangkan dari bekerja menurut gue cuma gajinya, yang dua minggu setelah terima langsung tinggal recehnya doang. Hari kamis sebelum Idul Adha, gue ngelihat dua anak SMA lagi ngadu moncongnya di depan Indomerit dekat tempat kerja gue. Gue aja yang sudah empat tahun pacaran gak pernah kayak begituan, mungkin gue aja yang cupu. Atau gue terlalu sibuk mikir sok filosofis tentang arti kedewasaan, sampai gak pernah kepikiran nyosor cewek gue. Apakah jalan kedewasaan yang gue ambil sudah benar, atau malah melenceng dari jalannya.
Kembali lagi ke neng YUI, gue kangen banget sama suaranya. Iseng gue buka channel vevonya neng YUI, isinya short version semua. Tapi ada satu video interview saat doi mutusin buat hiatus empat tahun lalu. Intinya sih seorang artist itu pasti akan mengalami tiga fase kehidupan. Fase pertama, dia akan menyanyi hanya untuk dirinya sendiri. Fase kedua, dia akan mempertimbangkan pendapat dari orang-orang disekitarnya. Fase ketiga, dia akan mulai bernyanyi untuk para penggemarnya, semacam persembahan kepada fans. Lagu I’ll Be dan Fight adalah contohnya. Persembahan untuk para penggemar.
Lalu hal barusan gue coba cari benang merahnya sama kehidupan dewasa gue. Sehari sebelum Idul Adha, gue nemuin jawabannya. Mungkin jawaban ini juga yang ditemuin sama neng YUI. Jadi alasan YUI hiatus mungkin karena doi udah merasa mencapai batasannya sebagai seorang YUI. Dia tidak akan berkembang jika tidak mencoba sesuatu yang lain.
Jawaban yang gue maksud adalah, sekuat apapun kita menolak untuk menjadi dewasa, entah bagaimana caranya kedewasaan itu yang akan menemukan kita.
“Believe pornography is a disaster that we, the American people face difficulties. Our country can prepare for war, weapons, and soldiers. Our country is also able to find cutting-edge medicine to cure various diseases of modern. But for pornography … believe me …. at first we were not prepared and did not know how what to do to fight it. We are confused! ”
Dr. Randall F. Hyde, Ph.D
Damage that can be caused pornography to addicts of psychiatric side can not be separated from the operation of four types of the body’s hormones , namely dopamine , neuroepinefrin , serotonin , and oxytocin .
Dopamine works to cause a sensation of satisfied , happy , relieved , happy in the chest . However , dopamine also work demands increase the enjoyment level .
Example in the case of pornography , for example, the first time a teenager was happy to see image exciting , next will demand an increase in dopamine contentment . Teens had a keen sense of repeat and add , replace images and sound , voice and motion pictures continue , again … again … and again . Like people playing the game , he would be satisfied if it managed to rise to the level of play berikutny .
b . hormones Neuroepinefrin
Epinephrine hormone actually works for sparking creative ideas . Suppose a true businessman , his brain is filled with opportunities and advantages that name .
Looking at an event , he will think about the business opportunities that could be used as the field of money or new business sources . His instincts sharp in business !
Unfortunately , if this hormone is controlled by the destructive nature of pornography , pornography addicts brain will always be filled with the name of pornography and sexuality .
When he saw the picture a little stimulating , the brain will think ” creatively ” to apply to deviate .
If there are women who wear an open shirt , maybe just a normal person would say ” She’s really tempting ” . But for people who are addicted to pornography , will think , ” How ya feel like committing adultery with her … ”
That’s what people felt was dealing with pornography . Soul and his mind starts to break down !
As a result , the pornography addict can not think straight , lazy to study / learn , and too lazy to think creatively . It was because his brain was filled with a list of vocabulary or events that could brain is always continuous with the name of sex .
This is the hormone that has been directed by neuroepinefrin pornography .
c . hormone Serotonin
Serotonin works to bring a sense of comfort and calm . For example someone who is happy to see the sights , when he upset his heart would go out to see him so serene landscapes .
That’s the job of the effects of serotonin , which makes a person feel comfortable when hormones were out .
When a person whose name is in contact with pornography , hormones and even then exit . In effect, each person ‘s pornographer was embarrassed , sad , depressed , or stressed, she would run to pornography ! Because that’s what makes it peaceful .
d . hormone Oxytocin
Oxytocin is often known as the ” love hormone ” because this hormone is closely linked to the relationship of husband and wife love , fertility , contractions during labor and birth , and the release of milk during nursing . These same hormones helps us feel good , and it triggers feelings and behaviors to maintain .
That system works okitosin the hormone that can create a bond between the deep and psychiatric mother and her child . However, what if the bonding that happens with pornography ? ! !
Pornography that makes the hormone oxytocin worked continuously during the person’s access to pornography . As a result , the addict become inwardly bound with pornography ! God forbid .
This is what gave rise to a sense of ” need and addiction ” . People who are addicted to pornography has a sense of need , opium , uncomfortable , if not look at pornography for several days .
Mentally , the following examples of the behavior exhibited by victims of pornography addiction .
1 ) . Formed the nature of sexually abusive towards women is increasing .
2 ) . Start underestimate rape as a crime or are no longer regard it as a crime .
3 ) . Formed a distorted perception of the s3ks .
4 ) . Comes a great desire for the type of pornography that is more deviant , bizarre , or cruel ( normal s3ks no longer perceived unsatisfactory ) .
5 ) . Eliminating the importance of marriage and reduce the belief that marriage is a legal bond .
6 ) . Looking casual sex as a normal and natural behavior
3 . Ruin Porn Intercourse
Those who are infected with pornography addiction , interaction will certainly go ill . Following the damage caused by pornography friendship :
1 ) . Likes outs
2 ) . Speaking not see the other person’s eyes
3 ) . Achievement in school decreased
4 ) . Likes talking slob so shunned friends
5 ) . Behaving slob ( pull strap bra , accidentally nudge with certain body parts , and others )
6 ) . Likes fantasizing about pornography
7 ) . Lot of drinking and a lot of throwing urine
8 ) . Begin doing mild to severe sexual deviations .
So that’s the reason , why I should not know about porn . But what happened to me a little unique , even now I got a scholarship to college when the time was still like to watch a porn movie .
But now there is a new way to avoid it , it is because of Peterpan, a band who accompanied me growing up with all of his prowess from a mysterious lyrics , arrangements are very lightweight making them very comfortable blend of simple as well as to be heard at the same weight . Listen to the album Bintang di Surga you will regret not born in Indonesia. When they changed their name to NOAH characteristic that I have said already represented on the name alone briefly . Pronunciation is light in weight at the beginning and the end , if you do not believe you can simply put it into practice now .
So that’s sedative that can save me from the snare of pornography , but it is actually much more about the different types of music that can save our souls from it.